Losing someone will love, such as a brother, parent, even a spouse, is a certainty in life. People have to deal with it whether they like it or not. The feeling which we experience when we deal with losing someone we love is grief. This article will offer five surprising facts about grief, the information being collected by various scientists over the course of time.
The five stages and more
We have been told for a very long period of time, that there are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Anger and depression are the two big low points, whereas acceptance, the final stage is the high point. However, according to more recent studies, people do not experience grief in these stages. Our emotions fluctuate on a daily basis. One day we might feel depressed, the other one happier, and so on.
It is important to know that the feeling of grief is not forever. It is a self-limiting condition. One might experience it for 5 years, other for 5 months, it depends on the individual. According to various researches, the effects of grief start to be reduced after six months. Of course, there are people who feel slightly better after 18 months, and so on.
It is much more difficult for men to deal with grief than it is for women. For years it was believed that the situation is quite the opposite. The reason why it is believed that women suffer from after they lose their husband, is because there are way more widows than widowers.
In the majority of the cases, family or friends recommend going to a doctor in order to receive counseling, but that is not actually necessary. They might make you feel better, but they are not actually required. In case you experience grief for a very long period of time, it might be a good idea to go to the doctor in order to receive some help. Usually people, who suffer from grief for a very long period of time, suffer from a condition called “complicated grief”. In that case, they might have an easier time escaping the feelings they have with the aid of a doctor.
Humor can solve everything
One of the best ways in which people can get over grief is with the aid of humor. In 2008, psychologist Dale Lund of California State University surveyed 292 men and women over the age of 50, who experienced grief. He discovered that 75 percent of them considered laugh and humor to be the best way of getting rid of the blues. Experts have stated that one of the ways in which people can get rid of the grief is by remembering happy memories about the ones they lost. It is much better to speak about the one we lost with happy feelings than it is to speak with anger, fear, or sadness.
It is important to focus on the good memories, and not on the bad ones, as by doing so, we will cope with the loss much easier.