There are many people in their 40s and 50s out there who are single and looking to find a partner. When they do, however, they have issues telling their kids about it. if you ask an adult child whether they would agree for their single parent to date someone, they would all say yes, as they would all want to see their parents happy. However, things are not really like that, as children, even adult ones, tend to be overprotective of their parents and anyone whom their parents might be dating would probably not be the best for them.
If you have a new boyfriend or girlfriend or at least you are trying to date again, there are a few things you could do in order to make your children comfortable with this idea. It is not easy for your children to think about you dating and this is the main reason for which you should let them know about your new dating plans as mildly as you can.
Talk to them
One of the most important aspects of a mother/father-children relationship is having a great communication. If you are able to talk to your adult children in the proper manner, you will have no problem about telling them that you feel like there is something missing in your life and that you would love to have someone there to share your life with. Although they might not understand it at times, there are several ways in which you can convince them that finding someone new is the best way to go.
If you have already met someone, you should first discuss this idea of you and someone else with your children. As mentioned, you could tell them how alone you feel and how much you need someone to be there for you, to listen to you and comfort you. Kids cannot resist this idea of their parents feeling alone and that would put them in a position where they could accept your new partner.
Prepare your partner
If you have been dating someone for some time now, you probably want them to meet your children. Make sure you let them know about some things your children are into. Giving them a chance of having something to discuss with your kids would be great. However, if you have a child who has some issues, such as going through a divorce for instance, make sure you let your partner know that that sort of discussion is off limit. Usually, when children feel that they can communicate with your new boyfriend or girlfriend, they tend to accept them earlier in their lives.
Moreover, another thing you can do so as to make sure you do not rush into things is to introduce your new partner little by little. Start going to a movie with your kids or start having meals together. It is very important for your children to get accustomed to your new partner and if they can see they are worthy of you and that they are reliable, they might accept them sooner.